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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you do have the 14 yr old and 6 yr old share a room, you're going to need to figure something out for homework. If the teen retreats to her room to study, does that mean the 6 yr old can't be in the room? If the teen is staying up late to finish a project, can it be done in the living room without anyone disturbing it?

And is there no other way to get a bedroom for each? Not a basement, or part of one, that can be converted into a bedroom for 4 years until the oldest heads off to college?[/quote]

Kids will survive sharing rooms.

They might even (gasp) remember that time fondly.[/quote]

Of course they'll survive. But right now I have a 14 year old upstairs in her room freaking out a bit about an exam tomorrow. I can send her to bed with her books and have her freak out quietly & hopefully fall asleep soon. If she had a 6 year old sibling in her room, I'd have to do something else. Certainly possible. But as someone who has a 9th grader who uses her room for studying and school projects, and who honestly doesn't have anywhere else in the house those things could be safely done between siblings and pets, I think it's something that requires consideration that a parent having to deal with "not enough rooms! How do I sort this out?!" might overlook. Especially if the 14 yr old is currently an 8th grader and has had a relatively easy homework load up until now.

If there is a basement or some other option to create another room, I'd ask the 14 yr old her preference. She can share with the 6 yr old and the space can be made into a study for when she needs quiet, or she can use it as her room.

The 10 yr old will always be able to use his room to study if he needs to, or to get away. And the 6 yr old will have a single room by the time she's 10-11, since her older sibling will be off to college. I think it's reasonable to consider options depending on the needs of the 14 yr old in question. If they're coming from each having their own room, I am not optimistic that the 14 yr old will be enthused about sharing a room with a 6 yr old.

I'd be tempted to go against the grain and let the 14 yr old have her own room with the understanding that as soon as she left for college it was going to one of her other siblings. The younger two share, and get their own rooms when the 10 yr old is 14 and the 6 yr old is 10. At that point the youngest girl gets a bunk in her room that the oldest girl crashes on when she comes home to visit. That seems to spread the pain fairly equitably. It means every kid gets a single during their high school years, the oldest kid still has a place to stay when she comes home, and the youngest doesn't make out with a single when she's 10 just because she's the youngest. [/quote]

The six year old could go to bed in the parents room or 14 year old study in the parents room.[/quote]

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