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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I recommend CTY outside of school, and lots of enrichment. I think you may have to make peace with a school that provides less than you're seeking academically.

As a separate issue, I would encourage you to consider your son's sensitivity and emotional reactions apart from his need for higher-level academics.[b] I don't think attaching it to his giftedness is all that helpful here.[/b] There are profoundly gifted kids without these issues, and un-gifted (to use an awful term) kids with them. Maybe reading about 2E kids would be helpful, or teaching some of the self-regulation strategies used for kids with ADHD or ASD.

It sounds like his lack of ability to self-regulate is causing  friction at school and needs addressing, and the giftedness lens may not be the most useful way to achieve that.[/quote]

It's causing friction at school to the extent that his teachers are putting negative labels on him when he responds to other kids' upset or pain. He has many friends and is a fairly popular kid.

I doubt you are an expert on giftedness, as those who are know that there is a set of characteristics that often present together in gifted children. Yes, it's true that not all gifted children have them, but many do.  It's not an issue of self-regulation so much as one of input processing. If one child observes and is aware of 30 different things while another only notices 3 things, the child who is processing more has a greater processing load on a continuing basis.

DS is highly empathic and sensitive to others' emotions. It's not easy for an 8-year old to handle, nor is it for older kids and adults who have similar qualities.     
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Maybe more is going on than you are recognizing.  His behavior is causing an issue at school.  Many kids are very bright in this area.  Very few are that highly gifted and ready for middle/high school level work at that age.  Your sensitive comments make me wonder what else is going on.[/quote]

I agree. I'm the PP who talked about my experience as a highly gifted kid (147 IQ with a sister who has a 153 IQ). We were bored in gifted programs in public school, but did not act out in the ways you are describing. I would strongly suggest you get your son comprehensively evaluated, so that you understand the full range of issues you are dealing with. You need to understand his intellectual strengths and weaknesses, as well as any psychological issues he might have (and I'm not saying he does have them, but you need to get an assessment by a professional). Only then can you knowledgeably determine the best place for him. [/quote]

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