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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know many Jewish families who have adopted internationally. You would need to be comfortable adopting transracially though, and you seem to already have trouble with the interfaith part. So that may not e the best option for you.
[b]You may need to think about how much of the issue is birthfamilies not wanting their child to be raised Jewish vs you not being comfortable raising a child who was not born Jewish[/b].[/quote]

This.  I'd also point out that children who are raised Jewish, but who are not born Jewish, and later leave may be reacting to being treated differently by their parents and others in the community because they weren't born Jewish.  It's hard to say what the contributing factors are, but if you adopt will not only you but your religious community accept that child, without distinction (once there's a mikvah, anyway)?[/quote]

???? What the heck are you talking about??  If a kid isn’t Jewish, he or she will go through a conversion to Judaism.  It happens all the time.  And you obviously don’t know this but Jews are required to treat converts even better than those who were born Jewish.  Yes.  Just the opposite of what you have said.  [/quote]

Yeah, I do know that, but just because that's a tenet doesn't mean that people will observe it.  As someone who had former boyfriend's parent tell me they didn't want their son to marry me because then their grandchildren wouldn't REALLY be Jewish, [b]if you think no one in Judaism cares about whether a child in their family or community was born Jewish or converted, you're the one that doesn't know what you're talking about[/b].[/quote]

I am sorry and it is a difficult thing to say without being accused of being anti Semitic. It has less to do with birth families being anti Semitic and more to do with birth families worrying about the child not being accepted into the Jewish community. Many of us Gentiles have had experiences with Jewish people being clannish and exclusionary.  The Jewish faith IS different from Christian traditions where mere conversion and acceptance of Jesus gives you a full membership to the club. Because Judaism is also a racially/tribally based community, converts are not considered real Jews by many in the community. [/quote]

You are full of crap on so many levels, dude. I was raised Catholic in the Rural South and you can be darn sure I met "Christians" who were super clannish and exclusionary. (Also Klan-ish but that's another story).  I accepted Jesus for sure in my mind but according to them I wasn't Christian and I was going to Hell. Good times. Most Jewish people I have known are super chill. Maybe Orthodox people stick to themselves like the Amish but most secular or Reformed Jewish people are just normal and accepting.[/quote]

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