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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a late loss (21 weeks) and it was a terrible and private battle. This made me scared to announce my next pregnancy until a viability age of about 26 weeks. My in laws were so so so mean and rude about it. I had to then explain my first loss and then they were mad they didn't know about that baby!!!!!! It did serious damage to the relationship. Tres lightmy here. The not wanting a shower, the late announcement, the no registry, these all scream "sensitive situation" to me. You never know what their last has held.[/quote]

If you hadn’t told them after first trimester, and they hadn’t been informed of the terrible loss, I can see why they were hurt. Hurt by the late notice of pregnancy #2 and no notice of pregnancy #1.

If you and DH had an otherwise normal relationship with them, it would have come as a big shock—as has this news for the OP. You can’t expect folks to understand and make allowances for what they don’t know about.

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BS.  The only proper reaction is "I'm so sorry."  They don't need to make it about themselves.[/quote]

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