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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Talking and chatting and sexting...Traded photos (clean) but never met.

DW is 55 and done with sex. It has been more than a year. I keep it quiet but honestly don’t even know if she would care. I would rather do all the sexting and flirting with my wife, but attempts are met with indifference. It is nice to feel wanted, even in cyberspace.[/quote]

[b]I would have preferred a sex life with my husband but he threw that away.[/b]  My friend woild have preferred a sex life with his wife but she claimed that menopause made it too painful and they don't even touch (I don't have the heart to tell him what my GP told me- that estrogen cream restores elasticity and function).

So my friend and I began an emotional affair. Now it's physical.  As it turns out we love one another, but we have kids, extended families, and spouses who love us in their way, though not sexually.  [/quote]

How did he throw it away?[/quote]

He stopped having sex with me or even touching me for long stretches.  First time was a year. We got back into it. Second time wasn't one big block of time-- he would reject sex at least 1/2 the time I'd initiate, making me feel undesired, but refuses to be the initiating party.  That was a stretch of 2+ years when it felt like I was being dated to step up and roll the dice on rejection.

Then we had a reasonably good streak, but then he got depressed, stopped wanting any sex, lost his job, and put on weight.  I tried to initiate a few times and he finished very quickly, which is understandable given that we were out of practice. But he sulked about it and forced me to take care of him about it and turned the prospect of trying more into something unpleasant.

I'm the younger, more classically physically attractive, higher drive spouse. I loved him because of a lot of great qualities that felt more important than whether he was hot. Our sex life had been ok before he bailed on it, though I don't prefer to be the one who initiates. Now it's over.

My lover and I have tons of sex. Better sex than my husband annd I ever had. And we love each other and are very close and supportive. But if I could have my first choice, it would be for my husband to have kept his vows and loved and cherished me. That's not possible so here we are.  [/quote]

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