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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You want too much from marriage. Don't upheave your family over this. [/quote]

What?!  I think we as a culture expect too much from marriage, but sex only once in seven years is too much to accept.  She owes it to herself to change her situation, whether that means demanding more from her marriage or moving on.[/quote]

Of course, they can rework their marriage and rekindle intimacy. It takes work but obviously you can. [/quote]

OP here: I do not know how to rekindle something that was never really there. [b]The marriage was a giant mistake. I have always felt this way.[/b] It was lacking while dating. We should have broken up but did not. I think it would be different if there was something to rekindle...problem is something was always missing and we both settled.[/quote]

And yet you had children who expect to grow up in a stable environment.

own your mistakes OP, get on with the work of being part of a positive family and stop griping here about not having sex.

[b]There are plenty of marriages with low to no sex[/b]. That is not the be all and end all unless you are a teenager.[/quote]

OP here: my kids were conceived in once-in-blue moon things. I did not expect to get pregnant either time (the first time was a true no-protection mistake). Also, this is not just about sex. We don't talk except for things dealing with the kids. We do not go out. We are not friends. We are not close emotionally or physically. This about how do you stay for kids if you are unhappy every single day and feel like you are in prison even though "it is best for the kids." (Even if we divorced I know 100% they would have a better childhood than I did for a variety of reasons--and my parents were married, unfortunately). [/quote]

Sure, but why should the OP accept it?  She did not sign up for a lifetime of celibacy.[/quote]

She doesn't much seem to care, though. You do, PP>[/quote]

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