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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women who will throw over their girlfriends to hang out with men ... usually aren't the women I want to hang out with.

I do feel that a woman who always says she prefers the company of men to the company of women has a problem. Low self-esteem, something else? I don't know. Because women-women friendships are really wonderful, affirming, and important. And if you can't get along with other women I think you need some counseling to figure out what is going on there. By putting down half of the population -- your own half -- you've just made yourself suspect in my eyes.

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This is so true. I've always had close friendships with other women and been baffled by the women who claim they don't. This claim always strikes me as a humlebrag.

"It's so sad how I make friends easily with men but not women. I guess I just don't get along with women because they're usually so catty, competitive, vain, [insert other negative female stereotypes]. I am just not like that. I'm more like men, who are straightforward and easygoing and fun."

It's a deeply misogynist way of distancing herself from socially undesirable "feminine" traits. Meanwhile, she is clearly high in competitiveness, cattiness, and vanity herself as hard as she works to present the opposite impression. She finds validation in male approval and being seen as special because she's "not like other women" and is "one of the guys."

As for sexual aggression, it depends on how it's defined. If it means that she's not shy about openly hitting on guys she's interested in, I am not threatened by that. I might be a little envious of women who have that kind of confidence, but I am self-aware enough to admire them and cheer them on and hope I can also get there someday instead of resenting them for it.

On the other hand, some women do this in a way that is obviously competitive, and I find this annoying because I don't want to be in the competition. Not threatening, but annoying and kind of gross.

I can think of one time in my life when I felt threatened by a sexually aggressive woman, and that was because the sexual aggression was directed at my boyfriend. I was sitting right next to him and she climbed up in his lap and pulled down her shirt and pants to show him her sexy lingerie.  :shock: Is it catty of me to call her disrespectful and pathetic?
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