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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No I do not regret it.  I love having one.  And if I am going to be honest I'll say this:

[b]I had a child bc everyone said how awesome it was.  Nobody said how hard it was (or if they did I tuned it out).  [/b] I thought having kids was just what you did and it was this blissful thing.

Well, I am 3 years into parenthood, and it is hard every single day.  If any of my child-free friends asked me if they should have kids, I would honestly tell them no.  I have struggled every day with having to give so much to one tiny human and have no bandwidth to take care of myself.

When I even think about two kids, now I LISTEN to what people say.  And people say it is HARD.  My friend just told me yesterday..."when I think back on my life with one, I wonder what I did with all my free time."  I personally cannot be happy like that - I am not wired to give in that way.  I know that in the long game, siblings are awesome, but the short game would destroy me.

My LO has three half siblings who are older.  It is not the same, but we cultivate the relationship as a high priority.  And we do same with family and cousins - to the extent that I am actively planning our move south in 2 years so my kid will grow up with his cousins.

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on what planet nobody said how hard it was? maybe you weren't listening. most people most of the time talk about difficulties. i knew about sleepless nights 10 years before i had kids.[/quote]

This.  My goodness, I was almost scared off from having kids because everyone constantly talks about how hard it is.  ALL THE TIME.  [/quote]

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