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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here,

I don’t communicate directly with her and I’ve made it clear to my DH that all communication with his family should go directly through him. I love my brother but I don’t have to love and fawn over my SIL and invite her into our lives. It just feels intrusive because I thought I had made it clear my relationship is with my brother, not her. [/quote]

Wow, op, you're cold.  I've been accused of being aloof, but you've got me beat by a mile. [/quote]

Just playing devils advocate here.

Plenty of people in this thread said it was perfectly fine for communication to strictly go through the sibling to his family and to leave the SIL/op out of the conversation, how is this situation any different? http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/717564.page[/quote]

Because there's a huge difference between saying "you should handle scheduling/set boundaries with people on your own side of the family" and "my relationship is with my brother, not her."  Should he handle the boundary setting, remembering birthdays, and sending regrets when they can't make a family vacation?  Absolutely.  But OP has taken that and turned it into "I have no relationship whatsoever with my SIL and it's intrusive of her to acknowledge my existence or celebrate the birth of my child by sending thoughtful presents."

That's nuts.[/quote]

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