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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I think the reason we have been waiting so long to adopt is our ages, DH and I are both 40.  I think birth mothers in general prefer younger adoptive parents.

Anyhow, I also wanted to add that one of the main reasons that I am drawn to this child is because this child is the exact same ethnicity/culture as me and my husband (which is rare to find).  The thought of being able to provide this child with the exact same traditions/culture of his/her birth parents/family that he/she probably would not be able to experience with another adoptive family, really warms my heart.  While we are open to a child of any race/ethnicity, when this child's situation was presented to us and I learned that he/she is of the exact same ethnicity as us, I felt like I could really provide this child with a meaningful environment to grow up in.

Also, by coincidence, this child has the exact same (traditional in our culture) name that I was planning on giving my second child, if I was ever able to have one.[/quote]

[b]Maybe it's meant to be?!?!?[/b]  I'd look more into it, get more medical info about this specific child, etc.  [/quote]

that's dangerous magical thinking, as is OP's attachment to the culture/ethnicity of the child.  It's purely a coincidence that this child has the same ethnicity.  A coincidence is NOT a reason to undertake a major, life-changing responsibility.  "meant to be" won't tell you if you actually have the resources. [/quote]

What do you possibly mean that it's "dangerous" magical thinking? The child is not dangerous. It sounds like the OP and her husband are well positioned to care for this child--they are financially stable and she doesn't work very many hours. If they feel inclined to do it they should go for it. Feeling drawn to adopt the child because of her name and ethnicity is no different from someone deciding to name their child Iris because they like irises, or deciding it's time to have children because they were touched by the parent-child relationship in some TV show. The decision to have children (or how many to have) is largely about emotion, not rationality. [/quote]

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