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[quote=Anonymous]Wow...this thread is getting to me.

My bio dad left my mom when I was a toddler.  I am the spitting image of him and he was killed soon after he left.  I guess she was lashing out at me because I was a visual extension of him.  I was the oldest and she had 3 kids with my stepfather - so I was the outsider anyways.  She physically and verbally abused me and allowed my younger siblings to do the same. I grew up timid and afraid of my own shadow and just tried to stay out of the way.  I had no confidence or self esteem and contemplated suicide often.  When I was 13, my then 11YO brother tried to stab me. When I told my mother, she physically attacked me and threatened to kill me if I told anyone else.  I was labelled a problem child and was sent off to live with my paternal grandmother.  My grandma loved me unconditionally and doted on me (I was her son's only child and his reflection).  She constantly told me I was beautiful and smart.  She made me go to therapy.  She saved my life. I am thankful for her and I am thankful that she is still around to see what I have become - she turned 83 yesterday.  I have seen my mother 4 times in 22 years - at my college graduation, my wedding, my stepdad's funeral and my older child's christening.  If she died tomorrow, I would not bat an eye.  The only one I stay in touch with is my youngest sister.  She was a toddler when I was shipped off - she is in college locally and we talk and meet often.

Therapy, a loving DH and firm commitment not to repeat keep me on track.  I have two kids (8 and 5) and I have developed some anger management tricks to keep myself from getting angry.  I am probably the most level headed person around now. LOL    [/quote]

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