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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, it’s not about Christmas and her wedding it’s about all of a sudden sharing a house, a mother (who will now be a wife and a step mother) with a teen girl. That’s a tough age. She’s giving you the chance to do the right things now. Please take advantage of it for her sake. [/quote]

OP here, I was that girl (around DD’s age) when my mom remarried. My stepfather had older kids and he and my mom ended up having two kids together. My dad also remarried and has stepkids and another biological child. Was it Brady Bunch perfect? Of course not! But it wasn’t the horror story you guys think divorce and remarriage are. I’m really close to my stepbrothers to this day!

Before anyone asks, don’t I want better for my daughter, of course I do! I would’ve loved to have never gotten divorced in the first place. Some things are beyond my control. No matter what, my daughter always has and always will come first. [b]If anything, I’m bringing more love to her life.[/b][/quote]

Eyeroll.  I'm sure that's what you want to do.  But it's a lot more complicated than you seem to think.  I'm glad that your stepfamily experience worked out well for you as a child, but there's no guarantee that your daughter's experience will be the same.  If you can't comprehend that this is difficult for her, then you're going to make it more difficult for everyone.  Try to get your head around the idea that your positive experience does not guarantee her the same.[/quote]

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