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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP some parts of your story are very familiar to me.

I am still with my DH, and our child is now 5. Things became much calmer once I really disengaged from the relationship. We're basically roommates now ...

But, I'm really just delaying ripping off the bandaid. Even though things are not volatile, it's not a good life. We will have to split eventually. I do think there's some value in having put it off this long. I think we'll be able to do it in a calmer and less damaging way than before, and we're in a better financial position as well.

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This is my situation as well.  We are roommates who both share a common love for our two kids under the age of three.  I fantasize about being separated but then again he is a very devoted and caring father who my children absolutely adore and I don’t want to be a singe mother.  But when our children are no longer under our roof we will have nothing in common- just awkwardness...it’s so difficult because I don’t want to hurt my kids but what about my happiness.    Is a separation the inevitable in our situation- I have no idea but I often tear up thinking about how it will hurt our children who are our world.[/quote]
Surely you have opened the marriage so that your husband can pursue his normal sexual needs? Surely you are not abusing your husband by rejecting him sexually yet expecting him to be "faithful"? Once you reach the point of no longer liking your spouse enough to have sex, you should just immediately divorce the a-hole. But alot of women are perfectly fine living without sex, and want to just keep the husband around "for the kids" (which really means "for his income"). That's fine, you can certainly want a roommate. Just realize it's neither a marriage nor is he monogamous.[/quote]

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