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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^^the point is that, like most women, her husband, who is supposed to be the #1 priority, slips to like, third or fourth priority. Your marriage should be the utmost priority. Not a child-centered existence. What is going on here is a completely child-centered existence and an emphasis on material things. I feel bad for DH. He has an opportunity to fulfill his dream in what seems like pretty good and stable circumstances but OP’s desire for new cars and more square footage trumps everything. [/quote]

Who on god's green earth said her husband is supposed to be her first priority? Most people get married to become partners in bringing children into the world. Some people make a different contract but it is explicit in the beginning (or should be). No one said she should start ignoring her husband and treating him like crap just because she has kids, but to imply that she should forgo kids for her husband's dreams is obscene.

That said, yes, OP, you take it too far. Ask your DH to come up with a strategy to make your lives work with his new plan without forging a 2nd kid. It can be done. [/quote]

It is really sad if most people marry for a sperm donor. [/quote]

It’s really sad for the woman and family if the #1 priority always has to be the husband. I didn’t realize we were living in the Middle Ages and women are only there to serve their husbands.

Yes, the husband could be resentful if she vetoed blowing their savings on a crazy dream. However, how angry would the wife be if he blows their savings on a pipe dream and she puts off having another child until it’s no longer possible? In these situations it’s important to think of the worst case scenarios and make a plan when you’re solid ground. Waiting to discuss until the situation happens is a bad idea. [/quote]

Are you guys being this dense on purpose? The PP you are all responding to clearly said the MARRIAGE should be the first priority. Not being a subservient wife. Kids will grow up someday and leave the house. You’re still left with each other. [b]Value the marriage and your compromises for each other within it because when it comes down to it, that came first. [/b][/quote]

I fundamentally don't agree with your world view, sorry. Being dense has nothing to do with it. You aren't married, are you? [/quote]

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