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[quote=Anonymous]There are no websites devoted to men who are seeking SAHWs. Honestly the only way you could reasonably achieve this is if you were mormon, and at 28 you're pushing it considering most LDS folk get married between 20-23 and already have kids at 28.

Why do you want to SAHM? I honestly thought I wanted the same thing - until I realized if I were a SAHM everyday would be chore day. You don't get any breaks. You have to cook, clean, do all the laundry and prepare all the meals. Do you think your DH who is working 40+ hours/week is going to want to help you with the chores and cooking when you come home? No. It's the hardest job because there are no breaks and you are heavily judged, especially when your kids are school-aged and you're still staying at home; there's really no reason why you can't work and contribute to the household wealth.

Also, what do you do if your DH gets sick? Or loses his job? Or gets laid off? Or has a mid-life crisis and wants to change careers? Being out of the workforce for 5+ years will make it very hard to re-enter without any real experience, and I doubt at 28 with two arts degrees you've had the chance to build a career.

Also, i've met plenty of women who were SAHM their entire life and then got divorced in their late 40's. They end up having to sell their homes, downsize, and live off their husbands alimony until they meet someone else to subsidize their lifestyle.

Being a SAHM is not all it's cracked up to be. I think if you were to set a goal, i.e, stay at home until your kids are preschool age and you go back to work part-time, you may have a better chance of finding a mate who will support this goal. But that just comes down to communication: "so, do you want kids?" "yes, I want kids and I want to stay at home for the first 2-3 or 4 years and then go back to work PT" looks WAY better than "I want to be a SAHM forever."

You're gambling your own financial security and independence on the idea that someone will happily work and support you and your children for 30+ years, without any health issues, layoffs, marital problems, etc.  [/quote]

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