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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]None of that matters and none of you know her circumstances. Coming over during the day when her dh is suppose to be working is not right. She can come to pick up her son and then visit with him that way. She doesn't need to be inside of OP's home imo when she's not there.  Her home is not a visiting site either. I assume she has her allotted time with her son.

I can see once or twice to bring something over to her son, BUT if this continues she should talk to DH. [/quote]

It's not just OP's home, dingbat. It's Ethan's home, too. It's Ethan's dad's home, too. Those three people are a family, whether OP likes it or not.

It sounds like the ex-wife, ex-husband and son have a healthy and close relationship. That's wonderful! Now, if they were going up to Ethan's room together to sit on the bed and chat, that would be one thing. But they are not. They are *standing in a hallway.* [/quote]

Shit for brains. Ethan and dad are family, ex is not.  Plus it's her home too so she get's a say. Ethan isn't an adult so that rests on the homeowners who are OP and legal husband! It may be innocent, and he needed some stuff for school etc.  If it becomes a habit OP and DH need to put a stop to it.  [/quote]

Let me break it down for you. A mother, a father and a child are ALWAYS a family. When divorce happens, the family lives in different households, but is still a family. When remarriage happens, the family is expanded to include step-parents and step-siblings, etc. A new nuclear family is also born, but it doesn't negate the original nuclear family.

OP gets *a say,* yes, but not THE say. If the dad and the son are OK with the ex-wife dropping by every now and then and having a brief, pleasant chat, that's fine.

Sounds like OP's husband is fine with it. OP needs to grow up.[/quote]

[b]Our exes are not part of our family in any form.[/b]  Only the children are.  it's not a stead fast rule obviously.

It must be when Ethan is home from school or something.  OP needs to tell us more.
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You mean...except the part where none of your children would exist without your exes?

How very sad. [/quote]

They're family with their kids, not the divorced ex.  It's not sad and sounds like you haven't moved on in your personal life and should.  [/quote]

You need to learn something about parenting. To the kids, it is still their nuclear family. And no I'm not a divorcee who can't move on, I'm the child of divorce who, for my graduation and wedding, only wanted a picture of myself with my mom and dad. They were not lucky/selfless enough to figure out how to divorce amicably.

What OP describes is the best possible scenario for Ethan. A lot of you don't seem to give a crap about Ethan, which is of course why divorce ends up messing kids up. If Ethan is OP's kid now (and that's how she should think of him) then she should be making decisions first about what is best for ethan and then what is best for her. But she's not. I hope her DH is in a better frame of mind about it.[/quote]

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