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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, my key piece of advice: contact the young man's parents NOW.  The thing is, his parents are probably even more alarmed than you are about the relationship, since their son is the one who faces legal jeopardy.  Talk to the parents.  Likely as not, you will find allies.  You might even arrange a meeting in which both sets of parents speak to the two young people about the limits and boundaries that both sets of parents expect them to observe.

Second, contact your DDs school counselor.  There might be a girls' group where students discuss problematic/risky relationships like this one.  The counselor might also assist you in connecting your daughter to activities at lunch and after school that might be a positive alternative to this relationship.

Finally, and this is essential: exercise some appropriate parental control over your DD's phone and social media.  The phone stays in your control at night; get passwords to ALL her accounts, and check her text messages daily. [/quote]

It just seems so highly inappropriate for this man to be attending HS and eating lunch with a 14 year old kid.

This 20 year old man has the option of leaving the school at any time. No one can tell a 20 year old that they have to stay in HS.  The girl is a captive audience and is legally required to be at that school.  She doesn't have the option to leave if she doesn't like it.  Sending her to a support group with other teenagers within the school to learn how to deal with these grown men sitting at their cafeteria lunch table and coming onto them at their HS dances just seems incredibly stupid and very wrong - sorry.  It's socially inappropriate for her and socially inappropriate for him.  Next thing you know he'll be turning 21 and running out to the bar to have a drink during his lunch break.  What can his 4th period teacher do if he comes back smelling like beer?

That man should be attending adult classes with other adults.  [/quote]

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