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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH won me over with effort. Now married for 10 years with 3 kids. Don’t think I can be in this loveless passionless dead marriage any longer. I am childcare. We talk about child logistics and that’s it. I’m so resentful. I gave up my lucrative career to stay home. DH takes me for granted. I seriously cannot stand my husband and feel totally stuck. Yesterday I told him I want out and [b]he just brushed me off and said he was the best I could do.[/b]

I want to run away and restart. Then I look at my children’s sweet faces and can’t leave.[/quote]

He actually said that he was the best you could do? Wow. I'd see that as a challenge.

Work on yourself, OP. Shape up. Plan your exit. Get some childcare for the kids and either go back to your career (full time or part time) or start a business or side job. Get yourself in control of your finances. Look after yourself. Get your power back.[/quote]

+1. Many men don't respect their wives once they become SAHMs and stop putting in effort because SAHMs often ARE stuck. My own marriage improved once I got back in shape, got a job, and became a self-supporting adult because DH knew I had options and other men were taking an interest in me. 
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So much this.[/quote]

Right, WOHMs get divorced less and little kids love being in daycare  :roll: [/quote]

Actually plenty of little kids love daycare.  [/quote]
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A lot of kids, especially toddlers, really enjoy the socialization.  And there are many studies that show at certain ages it can be more enriching for children to be in a quality daycare. [/quote]

I agree, but for how many hours a day? 5-6 hours? Sure. 9-10 hours? not so much.[/quote]

What is your point, PP?  OP is unhappy, and needs to find value in her life outside of her home/children.  She's clearly in an unsustainable situation.  We get it, you want to be a dependent doormat.  She doesn't.[/quote]

I don't want her to be a dependent doormat, but I don't think the other extreme to "get her power back" is the answer either. For her or her kids. Part time daycare and part time work sound ideal, and she is lucky to be in the position to pursue that avenue. [/quote]

Sorry but the only women who can actually get part time work that pays decent money and has the flexibility to fit within a school schedule are those who actually worked full time before. I’ve seen it time and again. Working full time actually gives you the flexibility you need later on, assuming you prove yourself in the workplace. 
OP quit her job. She’s unlikely to find a good fit with a part time job. 
Although if DH makes enough it may not matter that they have to pay for full time day care. [/quote]

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