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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was it possible that this was a misunderstanding?  I mean, when your family said they would help, maybe they thought bring the rolls and other side dishes of thier choice.    So that your SIL was reacting to (1) you not making the main part of the meal and (2) you assigning dishes.

Her response was still rude.  You told everyone that you did not want to host, they insisted and everyone agreed to help.

I woukd respond back, that maybe she misunderstood when you were talking about this in June, but you were clear that ypu did not want to cook.  And that if she wanted to host, that would be wonderful.[/quote]

This was my thought. When you said potluck and you're tired of cooking I thought Jane brings roles and veggies, John and Diane bring all the apps, Mom & Dad bring the wine, etc while you -the host - have the main dish and the basic condiments, dishes, paperware, etc .

Are you expecting someone to lug a ham/turkey or whatever tbe main meal is to your house? To reheat?

Is everyone local?

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OP wasn’t expecting anything.  She said she didn’t want to cook anything and the family insisted and said they’d bring all the food.  How is OP at fault? [/quote]

Because the "I don't want to cook" phrase us subjective. Op meant it literally. Her SIL (and me when I first read the post) took it as everyone needs to bring a side/app/wine/dessert so op just has to deal with the main dish.
It can be interrupted a different way even after a family discussion especially since everyone agreed to pitch in...pitch in by bringing the sides.

Did Op delegate who was responsible for bringing the main dish? [/quote]

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