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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m really surprised by the # of women who relate to this and think Robert was too aggressive.

He seemed like he was barely into her and she had to initiate/push everything along (including the sex! Which she didn’t even want but blamed him for) until after the sex when it flipped.

Robert shouldn’t have called her a whore. Granted. That seemed to come out if left field though. Until that point he was pretty considerate.

But I do think she lead him on. Don’t fuck guys you’re not into, duh. And if you’re stupid or naive enough to do that, don’t have the nerve to turn around and blame them for YOUR poor decisions. Bad sex is just bad sex. It’s not rape or assault, nothing to blame the guy on.[/quote]

I see what you're saying, but I think what that analysis is missing is the fact that although he wasn't being pushy with his words, he WAS being manipulative with his actions. He would be condescending and openly cold, silent and dismissive to the point of almost being hostile when he was in "disapproval" of something seems said. When she reacted in the way that he wanted her to, he would reward her by immediately become reengaged and turning back up the attention and interest and effort. Of course part of this is on her and we all wish she had the confidence to not need his approval somehow, but such is life for many college sophomores. Sure you can say she lead him on and called all the shots in terms of accelerating the relationship forward, but I think it should be acknowledged that he was subtly pulling a lot of the strings and manipulating her in little ways, and he knew exactly what he was doing.[/quote]

She realized he was doing that at the movies and the bar though. That’s when you Nope Nope Nope the hell out of there. I’ve bailed early on dates when I realized the guy was creepy or gross or just not right for me. Hell, I left my junior prom date early when I realized he expected me to put out when though we were just there as friends. “Thanks got the movie/drink, see you around.”

WHY on earth did she go home with him?! And it was Margot who suggested that and then had to push for it. And all the women who read this story are blaming HIM for being a creep! She pushed for the whole thing.[/quote]

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