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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm shocked at the number of young couples who seem to feel that any expected visits to or from family are unreasonable or who think its too much to expect them to help out/sacrifice for parents who've raised them. Is it just this forum or is there a total sense that parent's are there to serve children but never vice versa? I'm not talking about major financial burdens or letting parents move in with you, but occasional visits that last longer than the time it takes to eat and run, collect Xmas gifts or drop the kids off for free care?

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Your perspective is off. If parents have successfully built a loving relationship with their children, the other stuff (visits, helping, sacrificing), follows. But when parents have not successfully built that relationship with their children, usually due to their own narcissism and selfishness, the children are sick of it by the time they are adults. Why would they want to spend any more time in such a one sided relationship?

Of course the parents see it as them not being given what they are "owed". They are selfish.
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