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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Married 18 years, tween kids, and still drive to see family 4 hours away every year. It's our"normal". Kids love to spend time with cousins, and we like to visit with family. NBD. [/quote]

But when your kids get married and the grandparents are gone you won't have one single holiday tradition at your house to fall back on. Your kids won't have anywhere to go for Christmas and won't come to your house. This happened to me. [/quote]

Huh?  According to this pattern, when your kids get married and have kids, they won't come to your house anyway, because they will want Christmas in their own home.

[b]Also, I will absolutely have holiday traditions to fall back on.  My traditions are not location-dependent.  I can still bake cookies, have a Christmas tree, decorate the house, prepare a nice meal--just as I do now.  My kids will absolutely be able to come home for Christmas, and enjoy the same activities that we currently do at the grandparents' house. [/b] [/quote]

We have this similar arrangement and we are HUGE on traditions in our house- most of them are just add ons from the matriarch before really. I do my traditions in my mom's house easily, it feels like home for me and for DH even, I think family relationships are A HUGE factor in this, there is no awful and no perfect ways to do this [/quote]

Are you not having to rotate to your inlaws? I would love to see just my family every year and wouldn't ever have an issue with it. My mom and I have the same Christmas traditions. [/quote]

I'm sorry that wasn't clear- we do xmas every other year at my home town (same as my sibling who is married so we all line up)- for DH's family year the plan changes since they aren't really big on holidays or traditions or intergenerational stuff. In fact I am usually the one sort of nudging that stuff with my MIL and my kids so she feels like they have special things, because I know she enjoys it, she just wasn't raised with a whole lot of love/affection/traditions kind of things so she didn't impart it that much to her boys. So weirdly enough I am probably more "in charge" of traditions at my in laws, but I way prefer being with my family that sort of passed them down/added on. My kids will probably have xmas at their home on some of the DH family years actually- since we are half way between his brother and his mom (both have to fly). And we will probably end up doing a beach vacation one of the years too on his side because we keep talking about that.[/quote]

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