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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My brother lives in Arizona.  I recently learned from my parents that he is homeless and living in his pickup truck.  I just don't know what to do anymore -- PLEASE I need some outside advice.

Over his whole life my brother has been a liar, a thief, an addict.  It started in college when he lied to my parents and said he was going to college -- he took the tuition money and used it on drugs. He has only a high school education.

He has gone from job to job, state to state over the course of over a decade.  His credit is trashed and he owes at least $10,000 that has been sent to collections.  He was a heroin addict for years, but says he is now clean.  He refuses to go to AA, a psychologist, or get any treatment or help.

My brother's problems are one thing, but he has completely trashed my parents' lives (and soon mine).  My father is a very loving, trusting person.  He has been supporting my brother (and his drug habit) for YEARS.  I learned last weekend that my father, who has been retired for a few years, has NOTHING left in his retirement account.  It's gone. He told me he needs to go back to work now.  My mom and dad currently live near me, and I pay their rent while they watch my toddlers during the day.  They have nothing left for their old age.  They are in their late 70s.

Now my brother says he wants to move out to the DC area to "be with family."  He is a stain and I don't want him anywhere near my kids.  My parents, of course, will just accept him into the apartment (that I pay for).

What should I do?  I can't have my kids around my brother.  I can't afford to hire a nanny and pay for my parents' place.  But they have no more money.  [b]Why can't a 35-year-old man live without mom and dad's help?  [/b]

I just don't know what to do anymore.  [/quote]

Because he has a mental illness.

If it were my brother, I would help him because I wouldn't be able to deal with thinking of him homeless, and because I've lost other immediate family members.  But I would tell him that help is contingent upon him remaining in treatment.  I would not help him if he refused treatment/therapy.

But no one would blame you if you want nothing to do with him, either.  Concern for your children is a valid one.

It's tough.  [/quote]

+1 very[/quote]

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