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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe you have seen this already, maybe you haven't but it's spot on for me and sounds like the same for you.

Mental Load:
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/may/26/gender-wars-household-chores-comic

Sending you good vibes with a solution to getting the window/room temp situation fixed, in addition to unloading some of your mental load. Hang in there. [/quote]

Op here. This is EXACTLY IT! But what's the solution? The exhaustion at this point is driving me to severe depression/anxiety. DH isn't going to change. I can't just let go and not handle this stuff because it will result in my DD being unsafe. I am an anxious person but DH is chill/lazy/disengaged to an extent that I fear he wouldn't even feed her, take her to the doc, etc. I can't leave him, because then he'd be alone with her and she wouldn't be safe.[/quote]

I'm the Mental Load PP. Unfortunately I don't know what the solution is. You could share this with your DH. I did and my DH said he gets it, but it did not change ANY thing. I just thought of this while reading your post and thought it might help you moving forward as it it sort of feels better knowing you are not alone and it has a name that you can use/refer too. Some days I just look at my DH and say "mental load" and he knows either to back off or do just one little thing, like bring his suit jacket upstairs and hang in his closet instead of leaving it on the back of the dining room chair for me to bring up and put away like he usually does.

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