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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I absolutely hate it when one or two people decide to order bottles of wine or appetizers “for the table” and then expect everyone to share the cost. It’s obnoxious. If you want it, order it, and then pay for it. Let everyone else do the same. [/quote]

I agree this is obnoxious. It is as obnoxious as someone that itemizes a check down to the nickel during a meal where this didn't happen and everyone is roughly within 20 bucks of each other.

I loathe the itemizers OP, and I also tend to overpay than underpay. It speaks of a great lack of generosity. IMO the spirit of the event should be that all the friends want it to be easy and equitable. So if someone orders a bottle of wine then they volunteer to chip in more at the end, but getting into the details is annoying and awkward. I would prefer people on a budget just pick a less expensive restaurant. [/quote]

As someone who is on a budget, I'd rather go to a nicer place but order strategically (itemize and order say an entree and a glass of water for myself) than subsidize meals and drinks at a cheaper restaurant I don't like as much. [/quote]

At the expense of the comfort of your co-diners. If you want to itemize, figure out a way to do it in a way that doesn't make the table awkward.

I think when people do this it means they've been counting. And that colors the entire meal. Knowing someone has been monitoring the dollar amount of my meal and measuring it against their own and thinking about how to bring it up at the end. Which sometimes makes me alter what I order to try to be more in line with the person I'm with if I know they're like that. It makes the meal uncomfortable. So if you want to eat at a shi shi place and itemize then ask for separate bills up front or always bring cash and figure out how to round up quickly.

I think its really rude to itemize, it turns the entire outing into an accounting exercise. I always throw in more than I think I owe or split it evenly because I'm happy to be out with people I enjoy spending time with and the only person/people I'm concerned about is myself. [/quote]

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