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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He well earned that shot. Let him or he will regret it. 
Even if it fails, that's life. With your assets you don't have to live in fear. [b]I guess as a SAHM you don't feel powerful enough to dig yourself out of a hole. Maybe work on that. [/b][/quote]

What does this mean? Not being snarky, I just honestly don't know what you're saying here.[/quote]

NP. It probably means the for OP the man was her plan, and she has no means to support herself by her own admission.

And honestly a man like this who makes half a million and saved up millions and still isn't satisfied may have ambitions for improvements outside of his career, not sure if OP is worried about their marriage too.  Hence be supportive and weather this phase, OP seems vulnerable[/quote]

OP here. No I am not worried about my marriage. We have always seen ourselves as a partnership and that the money he makes is "our" money. He is asking me if he should do this, he's not telling me. I don't think it's fair to paint me as a leech. I've made sacrifices too. He went back to work two days after I had each of our babies and I didn't say anything. He frequently goes on last minute business trips and I don't say anything. It's not like I've been on easy street all these years. I've been home with three little kids.[/quote]

Never meant to paint you as a leech. But your financial plan is solely your DH.

For most working parents DH has to go back to work a couple days after having kids too; it's actually much worse to leave you 6 week old crying infant with some sub daycare worker you just met, so please shut the F up about [b]sacrifice[/b] in your paid off McMansion and  MILLIONS in assets.

FFS, you are the living defintion of EASY STREET.

But your DH wanderlust for better pastures does seem to be jeopardizing that, hopefully just professionally.

I am curious how you consider yourself partners when he has been crafting this secret plan (paid off mortgage, huge growth stifling cash savings) and not discussing with you years ago. [/quote]

Op here. It's not a "secret" plan. I knew he had this in the back of his mind. He's been approached by other startups but they could afford to offer to pay a salary so I said no and he agreed. And they were just never the right people. He feels different about this this one though. I suspect that if he doesn't do it he'll have major FOMO.[/quote]

Not secret but in your OP: Unbeknownst to me, this is why we have so much cash. [/quote]

I thought we were saving up for a "rainy day" so to speak. He has talked about this but I never thought it would seriously happen. I always assumed it was a pipe dream. He really likes his job, the hours are really good, the people are nice. We have a good thing going. Why rock the boat on the off chance that you might make 10M in a buyout, kwim? We don't need a 10M payout. We live fine as it is.[/quote]

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