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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think every situation is unique.

In the case of men, for some it embarrassment over performance. Whether it be due to[b] PE, ED [/b]or mental roadblocks. Did you say something that could be taken as critical? Do you let him know you are enjoying it? Do you let him know too loudly or too much that you are enjoying it? Did you fake it? All sorts of medications can cause performance issues and at that point, some men just, resign themselves to being done. Some still believe in "traditional roles" and if they feel emasculated, well....

With both genders, when there is a significant frequency disparity, I think it works against them. The partner that wants more frequency has a sense of urgency and consistently raises the issue. This makes them seem, desperate, needy, and/or depraved to the partner that doesn't understand not being able to control the urge. The lack of sex frustrates one partner while simultaneously turning the other partner off. The "needy" partner becomes less desirable to the "prude" partner. In time, each digs in a little further to their position and things spiral.

Much of this comes from how we are raised. "sex is bad." "don't have sex."

And for others, it is external pressures. Work, friends, family.  Or resentment (see the "[b]she got fat[/b]" above)
This, there are men who are suffering of ED, but blame the woman for it because she has put on some weight.

It's really hard to know as each of us has our secrets, our desires and our idiosyncrasies and nowhere do those things come out more than in our sexual lives. We are constantly evolving and changing as people but unless we strive to understand, accommodate and please one another, we will often find ourselves at odds. It is an unfortunate truth.[/quote][/quote]

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