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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok, as for serious answer, this is a very novel concept of "finding yourself." Family, farm, kids, work, all those were constantly together until recent history. The idea that you lost yourself in your kids, if you could find a parent in 1800s, what would they answer to that question? Assuming they are not some aristocratic flake with a lot of money? Having your own family was not so much the dream, as working the land to provide for your kids and kids pitching in, and everybody pitching in. And grandparents being there when you had your second, and third and fourth child. Daily grind as my teen would say. We live detached existence today. Not saying that I don't like it, I do. If I had to live with my mom or FIL, I'd probably be volunteering to work in the fields all day long. The idea that work and family are separate is novel, historically speaking. I was meant to be a mom, and I was meant to work and contribute. Honestly, even with 8 hours in the office, I think most people have more time for their kids now than in the past when you worked on the homestead or in a factory. The concept of losing yourself is quite honestly one of the more absurd ideas today.[/quote]

This isn't true.  Read "little women."  This happens to Meg when she has her twins in the 1870's, and she gets advice from her mother who went through the same thing.  (The advice is basically the same as this board... tell your husband to step it up and get back to doing some of the things you love).  If you read any literature based on women and domestic life, this feeling of being consumed by young children and losing yourself comes up over and over again.  
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Literature isn't real life. Plus add rich to my exeptional list. Seriously, novels?[/quote]

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