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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you had an health issue that caused you to gain weight and it took you years to get it under control and find the right meds, but now it is and you are back to a normal weight and guys don't want to date you when they find out? Is that who you want for a life mate, someone who would cut and run when they found out about your health issue?[/quote]

Op here. Yes. I am back to my normal without of 110lbs. I have always worked out and took care of my health, but PCOS was something I couldn't control. Not to make excuses, but it's not like I just sat around eating junk food. PCOS is similar to a thyroid problem, and can cause people to gain and uncontrollable amount of weight. It's not easy to deal with. [/quote]

How tall are you?  110 lbs is REALLY skinny.  You might think about gaining a couple of pounds, just because that will filter out the "obsessed with skinny women" crowd who might be (will be) way more judgmental.

I used to be your weight, gained about 25 pounds, now I am 135 and get hit on more than ever and by quality guys that aren't fixated on skinniness.  I think it was one of the best choices I made. [/quote]

Op here. I am 5'1.5". 110lbs is a normal weight for my height. It's not too skinny for me. [/quote]

NP.  I have no judgment on your body ("too skinny" or otherwise).  And congratulations on the weight loss and getting your health under control.  But I do think PP has a point.  I weigh significantly more than you and have some stretch marks (almost all women do...I'm surprised you and other posters here don't know that?) but have never had any problem meeting guys for relationships from a fling to a serious relationship, to now marriage.  Most of the guys I have dated have been nice/good looking guys with OK/good bodies and highly intelligent (this isn't particularly relevant except to point out that I've been involved with nice normal men, like presumably you're looking for).  I've had really good luck in the relationship department.  However, I have ALWAYS been cognizant of the guys who are obsessed with skinny girls and steered very clear because those people are awful for my self esteem.  Our society labels any girl who is skinny, even if she is not pretty at all, "hot" and a lot of douchebags buy into that.  I'm sure you're lovely, I'm not saying this is you, but what PP is saying is that you may be drawing those idiots.  Even at 5'1" being 110 lbs probably means you are pretty thin, so you may be drawing from the super vain crowd without knowing.

I'm certainly not advocating that you change your body to draw from a different crowd.  But I know the type PP is referring to.  That said, most men are decent human beings with parts of their bodies they are self conscious about just like you, and the LAST thing they are thinking about when on a date with you is your stretch marks.  My husband is a tall, lean athletic type and has stretch marks on his hips from a growth spurt he had in his later adolescence.

Good luck!  You will be fine!

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This is just all around, wonderful advice and a great post.  Thanks PP.  You don't often read something as thoughtful and intelligent on DCUM as this. [/quote]

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