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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't really think about marriage until 30 or so. I met my DH at 32, married at 35, had a kid at 36, considering #2 at 39. I did have to focus on dating "seriously," but I had a blast doing it, met many nice people (just no chemistry), had a couple of short relationships and finally met my DH.
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You really lucked out. I know a lot of women who did the same thing - not focus on marriage until 30. The problem is, you meet a guy at 31, then date for 2 years, and finally realize he's not the one. Now you're 33, start process again, and find out at 35 the same issue. Soon the biological clock is really ticking. It's a real gamble.. but what can you do?[/quote]

It shouldn't take longer than 4-6 months for you to figure out if someone is marriage material. If you're not heading toward commitment and discussing it, move on. No drama, just realize wonderful as he may be, you're not on the same page. I mentioned two relationships in the two years I dated a lot, each around 3-4 months. There were some red flags with both from the start but there was also a real connection and in the case of the second one, chemistry like no other. So I stuck around for a bit. Over the following few months, it became clear one was insecure and the other had been dumped recently and they were just not a good match for me at the time. You have to know what you want and go get it. I don't think it was luck, or at least not mostly luck.  I also don't think I'm somehow a special case. It was hard work but also fun. I must have gone on 50+ first dates...So much happier now. :-). OP, don't worry, you are young!  Heck, I'm pretty sure I could do it again if needed at 40 or 45 if necessary (god forbid).[/quote]

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