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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Hmmm - really? I’d like to see a survey of percentage of dcum’ers who didn’t change their name

From this thread it seems like the majority didn’t but we know thats bs

In our circle full of liberal ivy grads (many with PhD, md, real professional accolades), eveeyone changed their name even if on paper their politics and outlook scream “independent/modern/liberal woman”

I think op’s fiancée has somewhat of a point

FWIW I’m 32. Perhaps the 40+ set is different
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I didn't change my name. I'm 46. I'd say about half of my friends from college (ivy league) changed their name. From my workplace/grad school, less than half. For me, I had published a couple of books before I got married so I was definitely continuing to use my name in professional circumstances. The only discussion DH and I had about names was which last name our kids would have.

Also, my mom is divorced, she changed her name and never changed it back because that's how she was known for like 30 years. If I'm going to be dumped, I dont want to feel like I have to decide whether to go back to a name I hadn't used in 20 years. another friend of mine faced this too, and said that changing her name back was painful and she wished she had never changed it to begin with. Men dont have to face this issue. [/quote]

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