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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your son gets 2 birthday parties this year. That's the only solution. Invite your family and DSs friends to a party at your house.

Don't go to your Exs girlfriend's house. WTF?!!

How old is your kid?

I would send an invite soon. [/quote]

My kid is turning 7.[/quote]

That is REALLY crappy.

Send out invites.

To one or two moms you know, apologize for the double invite and let them know (discretely, lol) that you had this party planned but your husband and his new girlfriend went behind your back and planned this party at the girlfriend's house with her extended family.  Let them know when you touched base with your husband to finalize the plans (since you usually are the one to plan the parties and your husband never has had a role in it and just shows up) he told you about this one. Tell them you understand if they cannot make it to the originally planned party.

I guarantee that they will get the word out and her real bday party will be well attended by her friends.

I wpuld not attend the girlfriend's party under these circumstances an probably most of her ftiends woukd not either. Sisters before bitches.

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NP.  That sounds to me like it punishes the kid more than anyone.  Kids don't want to get caught up in the parent drama.  The daughter's life is being turned upside down, and she just wants a calm, happy party with her friends and ideally both parents.

OP: For your kid's sake, be the bigger person here.  You can attend a half hour of the party with gritted teeth (time it for cake and singing, not the activities), or you can skip it entirely.  You can have a special day with your child and a couple of close friends to celebrate her birthday a second time.  But don't go out of your way to undermine the party that has already been planned.  Yes, it was a horribly crappy thing for the STBX and gf to do, but don't stick your child in the middle of it by sabotaging her party.[/quote]

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