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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to look at this from the holistic view of what works for the family unit, not for two individuals. Is what you have now the best from the perspective of money, time, and family? In general, there is always going to be someone with the primary job and income, the secondary job which factors into the primary job, and the running of the family. The only thing that feminism changed is that the primary job doesn't have to belong to the husband.

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Says the white male father whose full time working wife magically runs the entire household, property and kids' development. [/quote]

*Shrug*  The OP made a choice years ago, and now regrets that choice.  The question is what to do about it.  The husband is living up to his part of the bargain, she doesn't want to anymore.  She has the flexibility to do other things, but for some reason wants her husband to scale back his ambitions.  This isn't necessary and doesn't make sense.  Again, this seems like either (a) regret, or (b) a desire to be her husband's "equal" (or perhaps "equal" to her friends, of whom she is jealous of their success).[/quote]

As is almost always the case on DCUM, the problem ultimately comes down to insecurity and low self-esteem. The OP makes more than 90% of families (never mind individuals) in the richest country on Earth, but because her husband or friends make more, it's still not enough. If she respected herself, it would be. But she doesn't, so it isn't. Meanwhile, 300 million people elsewhere in the US muddle by on less.[/quote]

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