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My husband went through something like this and I have struggled to understand it, as we have been working on our marriage. Can you explain what it is about this experience that "hurts like hell"? I still don't understand that part. [/quote]

It hurts because I want to remain friends with someone who, because of the affectionate feelings one or both parties feel toward each other, I really have to cut out of my life and I can't even tell them why. I can't speak for your husband but can swear to you that my crush/limerence hit me like a truck I did not see coming and I wasn't expecting. I love my spouse and hate that my heart has deviated this way. I don't want to be melodramatic but I've lost my appetite, can't sleep, feel like my work is suffering, and have lost several pounds in a few weeks. I know how deranged this sounds but I'm about as cynical and unromantic a person you'd ever meet. I'll take the blame for letting co-worker into my life but I didn't see this coming. Maybe your husband didn't either but obviously  I'm not aware of the circumstances.[/quote]

Thanks for sharing. I guess what I don't understand is the sense of pain and drama over an unrequited crush, when you have a loving spouse who is really there for you (and who could really be hurt by even knowing that you feel this way.) I guess it must be hard to get that perspective when you are in the middle of this. [b]In my husband's case, I think he just liked the ego boost he got from her attention and it was hard to let that go.[/b][i] If I could offer advice, focus on what really matters in your life and don't take your spouse for granted.[/quote]

This.  The ego boosts are addicting.[/quote]

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