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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a PP said, this thread is enormously helpful even if people have disagreement over the definitions. I recently cut contact with the object of my workplace crush. What will never get sorted out (because it's impossible to ask) is whether this person even knew how I felt, and for sure I'll never know if they reciprocated. The crush was not something I saw coming and though I am happily married I never thought a crush could hurt this much. Marriage vows are more important than my feelings, but this hurts like hell and I don't know how long this can go on. Anyway, thank you to OP and others who are sharing. Only safe place for me to learn and consider this.
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My husband went through something like this and I have struggled to understand it, as we have been working on our marriage. Can you explain what it is about this experience that "hurts like hell"? I still don't understand that part. [/quote]

This is no different than going through a break-up in a relationship.  The more significant the feelings (call it crush, limerance, love, whatever), the greater the heartache.  If you're the one doing the break-up, there's a little more control over the situation, but empathy for the jilted (if you still care for them and their feelings).  If you're the one being told the relationship is over, there's the usual feelings of rejection.  I'm in my 50's and it sucks like I'm still 17.  Totally human, or arrested development?  My painful reality, either way.  [/quote]

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