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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a mom of a 16 year old boy, and [b]I'm pretty pissed off that this is going on. Who the hell does this kid think he is REPREATEDLY saying "I think you're friggin' hot. Why won't you talk to me?" As if he has a right to?!? As if she owes him a conversation because he's turned on by her?!? And then sending friends over. And then staring at her. That's intimidation. There's nothing cute or okay about that.

If I knew my son was any part of this type of nonsense, he would not hear the end of it.

Give your daughter a day to handle this on her own by blocking him on Snapchat. But that's it. Any other attempts after that by this kid or his friends to contact her or make her feel uncomfortable need to be addressed seriously by school administrators. This is harassment. No student should be made to feel uncomfortable[/b]. [/quote]

+1000

She needs to block him on Snapchat and then go tell the school counselor about it and ask that the counselor talk with him.  Maybe the kid is having trouble reading social cues.  Or maybe he's just a so-called popular kid who thinks it's cool to harass and pressure girls who tell him "no".

Either way, it's not your daughter's job to figure out what's wrong with this kid.  Her instincts are telling her to steer clear (cheers to her!) and you should help her do that.

Here are some benefits of having her inform a school counselor and asking them to take care of it:

(1)  She'll learn that she doesn't ever need to put up with this type of BS on her own.  It's not her burden to bear.  Instead, there are resources around her to help shut this down, and she can use them.  (To me, the adult equivalent is reporting workplace harassment to HR);

(2)  There's no reason she should put herself in a position of confronting him face to face.  Maybe it would go well.  Or maybe he'd be so angry/embarassed that he escalates - either in the moment or later on.  If the school is involved from the start, he'll know to stand down.

(3)  He and his friends may be doing the same thing to other girls.  The school absolutely needs to know what's going on in case this is true.

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