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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is where a strong dad can create a boundary. Your DH is upset because this (protection) is his primal role and he can't fulfill it thanks to our crazy culture that thinks a young girl should handle this all herself (ie. your DD thinks this).  Can dad pick her up from school one day; be visible?

Also, make sure she does not accidentally give the boy intermittent reinforcement (this often happens if one is trying to be polite or not rude, but it can backfire).

Also google "extinction burst" because the boy will go through this first before quitting, and she should be ready for this.

I really think you guys need to talk to the school admin (psychologist if they have one).  This needs to be on record.  I'm sure they've dealt with this before (maybe even from this particular kid) and they need to be on notice.  It takes a village to protect a young girl/boy in this situation.[/quote]

Your first paragraph is bizarre.  What "primal" role would you have fathers play?[/quote]

Uh, what I said.  Having dad going and being visible to show that this young female is protected by a family group; and that this juvenile male will have to deal with a mature alpha male if he continues to engage.

Young females have been protected all through our evolutionary history.  It's only modern culture that has relaxed this.  There are many benefits to having a relaxed culture (young females get freedom and independence) but there are some downsides, too, because they are vulnerable to predators.

In general, boys who like to bully those who are more vulnerable see things in a pecking order.  Most will defer to a bigger stronger mature male who is highly motivated to kick his sorry ass if he encroaches on his DD.  It's in the DNA.[/quote]

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