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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At my daughter's school (she's in 9th grade), popular refers to anyone to is well-liked, not afraid to speak up, participates in activities (my daughter is in marching band), and has a large group of friends. The girls who are "slutty" are NOT popular. They are the ones the other kids stay away from, especially since some of them at her school seem to have a pregnancy pact going on. So all schools are different, I assume. She is considered popular at her school. My other daughter was not, got mixed up with a bad crowd, so I sent her to live with her dad in Oklahoma, where the school has only 80 students in grades 9-12. The one my younger daughter is at has around 600 students in the same grades. My older daughter is still not popular, but I don't care because she is doing much better and is no longer around that bad crowd of kids. [b]Popular isn't as important as safe and happy, IMO[/b]. [/quote]

Totally agree with you.  Popular is well-liked (or admired).  The slutty crowd is that -- the slutty crowd.  There may be some popular kids in that crowd and more that are not. Popular is a stupid term and very meaningless in 10 years after HS.  Happy is way more important.  But that being said, there are a lot of posters on this thread whose kids are NOT popular, and they care quite a bit and are are making accusations that the popular crowd is mean, slutty, druggy, whatever.  Worry about your kid being happy and fitting in whatever group they are comfortable in but don't put down the "popular" crowd to them --"you don't want to be in that group anyway because they are mean and slutty" It is not a good lesson.  Focus on their own positives not the negatives of a group that they might envy in some way, it is not a habit that will serve them well in the future. They need to be comfortable in their skin from the inside. [/quote]

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