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[quote=Anonymous]I grew up in this area and went to private schools.

The popular kids did not crash and burn as adults and those who were popular in school ended up being just as "popular" in adult life and very successful. My social media is filled with those people's accomplishments.  They aren't even braggy about it.

The popular kids were involved in sports, were leads in play, heads of clubs, partied on weekends. Almost none ended up junkies or alcoholics.  Their parents were present in their lives as well.  I will go out on a limb and say this is likely still the case today in private schools and other mainly upper SES public schools in our area

Looking back, I think being popular helped them shore up and establish social skills that were needed for life long success. They got to practice and establish these skills needed for networking, negotiation and just general socializing long before needed and long before they even knew that they would need them.

I often wonder now how much social engineering was taking place behind the scenes that involved parents.  My own mom and dad were not into the social scene so I can't know for sure but I don't doubt that the same social engineering and hovering was going on 20 yrs ago. And I bet those parents learned it from their own parents.

So today, when I see parents who are successful - high SES, high status jobs, trying to social engineer their young child's lives, I do wonder if they are not on to something and that is part of the cycle of upward mobility.[/quote]

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