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[quote=Anonymous]Hi all, OP here.

Thank you all sincerely for the advice (both for and against divorce, and for and against me). The thought of dating is scary... meeting new people is fun but I feel like at some point in a relationship you start to learn about the other person's negative attributes, and then it's time to make that break-or-stay decision again. I highly doubt I would find husband material again (PP who said "who would want someone like OP?" hit the nail on the head. I don't know who would if I'm being honest). Which makes me think I should stay.

I do believe my husband loves me, in his own way. I love him very much, and I think he would honestly have a harder time finding a new woman... I'm not just saying that because it's me and I consider myself a catch or anything, but he is even more particular, to a neurotic level than I am, very rigid in his thinking and actions, pretty cheap, emotionally cold, logical to a fault... I really worry how he would do and I don't want to hurt him.

Reading about PP's who have great sex lives made my heart ache. I remember what it felt like to have amazing passionate sex. To be truly wanted in that passionate way. I agree with PP who said maybe it's because we don't feel connected any more. I have been higher drive with exes. I don't want another friend, but I also don't want to be alone.

I think you all have given me a lot to think about in what I want out of a marriage versus my current marriage, and what could be out there. Trust me, I surprise him with little things, we snuggle, I make it a point to meet him at the door, give him a big hug (to which he politely taps me on the back in return), compliment how he looks, etc. Maybe someday it will get better. Or maybe someday he'll realize there is more out there and leave me. Who knows.[/quote]

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