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Reply to "We have a great logistical and financial marriage, but no affection. Worth it or not?"
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[quote=Anonymous]In my experience, when one partner complains that the other "isn't affectionate" or isn't "emotionally close," the truth is that both parties are contributing to this and that the complaining partner actually has something invested in maintaining the status quo--that they want this state of affairs, even though they say they don't. They place all the blame on their partner, rather than looking in the mirror and asking how they have contributed. FOR EXAMPLE...why sleep in a separate bed? Why not go cuddle with hubby? What would he do, say no? Are there actually issues between you that are leading to lack of emotional closeness--differences or unhappinesses that you do not discuss? What is your ideal for what your relationship would be like? Why don't you just, you know, make it happen? If you want him to sit on the couch and cuddle you in front of the TV, why not ask for that? Or could it be that you really would rather be alone? [/quote]
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