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[quote=Anonymous]My DH is somewhat like this. I used to get so annoyed that he never wanted to kiss unless we were about to have sex, and he's not really a touchy feely person. Honestly, though, the less I cared, the better things got (within reason, the unprompted kissing will never happen, though he'll occasionally kiss me good-bye if one of us is traveling without the other).

The more anxious you get about this lack of affection, the less likely he is to improve. What does help is being relaxed, having fun together, and not expecting too much.

And also... even when I got frustrated with my DH, I didn't actually worry that he didn't love me. You haven't mentioned love here--is this something you are concerned about. Is it purely the physical intimacy, or are you concerned that you lack an emotional connection as well?

Finally--you don't have kids, so you have more time (presumably) to break out of the routine, have romantic dates, travel. Focus on having an emotional connection in ways that he is able to connect with you, instead of on what he isn't capable of. If he pressured you for sex, would you be willing? I'll bet not. So don't pressure him for hugs, but seek other ways of connecting with him.[/quote]

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