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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not fibromyalgia. [/quote]

Why not? I don't have it, but my friend does. Her DH actually left his first wife for her![/quote]

Can't handle the drama[/quote]

And it surprises me not even a little that your friend with fibromyalgia destroyed a marriage. [/quote]

It's not a real disease, neither is chronic Lyme disease.[/quote]

I supposedly have it.  I have a lot of chronic pain.  Every doctor calls it something different.  It is the blow off diagnosis to we don't know what is wrong with you and since we can't see pain you don't have it so here is a diagnosis and go away.  (in the meanwhile we suffer a lot).[/quote]

+1.  I don't believe it's a real illness either. BUT, I do believe patients are in pain. I think lazy doctors give up and slap a Fibromyalgia diagnosis on them just to shut them up. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia years ago. I don't fit the criteria at all - I am not depressed. I am not low energy. I am an active, healthy marathon runner and martial arts instructor who was experiencing chronic and worsening pain. Instead of accepting the diagnosis, I went to Mayo and saw the best rheumatologist I could find. I have fairly severe oesteoporosis and  oesteoarthritis. A bone scan revealed low bone density. I also had several compression fractures in my spine. There was a reason for my pain. And treatment options. My doctor in DC was just not smart enough to look in the right places. My doctor at Mayo in Florida made the diagnosis in days and started me on medication for both the pain and the bone loss. I was a different person once the pain was controlled.

Would I marry someone with a chronic illness? It would depend on the illness. Someone like me with controlled arthritis? Sure. I have to get careful to avoid fractures. I have to stay on medication and get bone scans, blood work,  and X-rays every so often. I have bad days occasionally.  But other than that, I am active and healthy. None of us know what the future holds. Your healthy spouse could be diagnosed with a life-changing condition tomorrow. 
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