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My "ex" is a beautiful coworker (still works down the hall from me).  It was a torrid EA that went on for a year. [b] I got addicted to what I call the emotional slot machine.  Sometimes when we interacted, the lights would flash and the bells would ring, and total validation would come spilling out of that beautiful machine[/b] ("We'd be so perfect together."). [b] Other times, the machine would unemotionally take my token[/b] ("It's inappropriate for you to think of me that way").   It took me a while to diagnose her with textbook Narcissist Personality Disorder, which has a predictable hot/cold pattern of control.   NPDs get Narcissistic "supply" at both ends of the manipulation:  first in the power of attracting you, over and over (positive fuel), and when that gets stale (or they're disappointed in your obvious weakness), then a rush of power by seeing the emotional havoc they're able to wreak in their sudden 180 (negative fuel).   It's not hard to feel contempt for someone who takes pleasure in causing you pain, especially when you recognize that all the positive affirmations are just set-ups for the inevitable, crushing discard phase.

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WOw. OP here. This gives me chills it is so accurate.[/quote][/quote]

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