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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a good friend who is cute as a button and has a quirky but endearing to all personality.  She is gorgeous and I think could have her pick of men.  But she is dating someone who refused to call her his girlfriend for MONTHS (she loves to tell this story as if it's adorable), and is generally rude to her and acts like she's a nuisance.  The man is not traditionally attractive by most societal ideas of beauty- and not wealthy, etc- so it seems utterly baffling to me as to why she is with him.  He seems to be annoyed by her very presence.

My question is- WHY does this happen?  And if you were a woman in this kind of relationship what happened with it (i.e. still together, broke up, you realized you could do better, he ended it, etc) and why, psychologically, were you in it? [/quote]
[b]What about her relationship with her father, or long term father figure such as a step father? Also, what about her mother's relationship with a man/men while she grew up?[/b][/quote]

This.  Most often, it's this.  People, even without realizing it, gravitate toward what is familiar to them, what was their "normal" growing up.  Either her father treated her that way or her father treated her mother that way, and it normalized that kind of relationship dynamic for her.  It's comfortable to her.

The other possibility is that she was abused, neglected, had some sort of trauma growing up and has a deep down feeling of inadequacy, low self-worth.[/quote]
I can testify to this. My divorced parents constantly put me down as far back as elementary school. I was handed to my grandmother as an infant   and my parents just didn't like the way I  turned out. I was blamed for the divorce, for not being attractive, for not maturing physically at the same rate as my friends, for being quiet/stupid. I am now a single parent and I either date men who don't want me or the feel unworthy of those who show interest. Every break up kills me. Every achievement I have had in adulthood is still played down by my dad. Think.....you should have bought a SFH instead of a townhome. You look better now because the last time I saw you was a disaster.
Most women attracted to jerks have deep deep deep seated issues.[/quote]

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