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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP come back and update us?[/quote]I haven't made any firm decisions.I'm def looking at ending it. I have no trust in him right now. It's amazing how fast things can change.   Everything on his job and degree is legit. I'm concerned about other financial issues. He hasn't reached out or contacted me since he left 18 hrs ago.[/quote]

I think that if you want to continue the relationship, you need to have a serious conversation about finances and financial disclosure. For example, if y'all were talking about buying a house together after selling your houses, where is he going to come up with the money that would've come from the sale? If he had been planning (fictionally) to use the sale money to pay off his student loans, where will that money come from now? What debt does he have? What is his credit like? What kind of financial planning has he done, in general?

In addition to that conversation, I think you need to communicate really clearly to him how damaging to your relationship this lie was. He needs to be open and honest about why he lied - not just about owning the house but about the various statements that he made related to the house over time. Where was he going when he said he was making repairs? He may think that this lie is maybe not a huge deal, and financially, it may very well not be. A stable renting history, minimal debt, and a good credit score are (in my opinion anyway) a solid foundation for a life together. The lying is a much bigger deal and I'd want to talk a lot more about that before going forward with the wedding.[/quote]

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