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[quote=Anonymous]I think there are a handful of major things I've lied about in my life.  The only one I can remember is how I lost my virginity late and met a best friend who I thought was cooler than me, and intimated that I had lost my virginity around the same age as she had.

The thing is, obviously as we got closer, the more awkward I felt about it.  And it was such a stupid thing, but one that seemed to come up often to me, just because I dreaded her realizing it hadn't been till college that I'd lost it.  Discussions about my HS boyfriend seemed determined to out me as a total liar.

Eventually the burden became too much, and I found ways to kind of "clarify" my lie- "Oh, I didn't sleep with my 10th grade boyfriend", until, finally, I let it slip out. And of course, she was cool with it, because it was only a big deal in my mind.

What shocks me is keeping up a lie that feels huge to you, for a sustained period of time, and ADDING to it.  In the moment when I had first made it seem like my sexual history was different, I was kind of panicked, and later, I never tried to embellish, but always lessen.  And it didn't take long before i felt like we were so close, that I didn't want to have this silly lie between us.

That felt like a HUGE burden to me.  So I cannot in my right mind imagine carrying on a farce like that for months or years, and keeping it going to that extent.  I would say something very dark is going on with him.  My opinion, of course.[/quote]

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