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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a single female.

I have a male friend that was single when we met, and tried to date me. I said no, and good thing I did because it turns out he had a girlfriend he never told me about. They got engaged. He continued to try to date me, and we ended up sleeping together once. They got married. He still pursued me, but I declined. They got divorced. He still tried to date me but I said no way because he clearly has fidelity issues. He told me he loves me. He got married to a different lady and had kids with her. He still tried to date me the whole time!

This man still pursues me to this day. 17 years later. Tells me he loves me, always trying to take me on vacations and treat me to nice things. Despite my one transgression with him, I have declined everything else. I try to keep it platonic and ask about his work, family, wife and kids. When he says he wants to take me on vacation, I say great, let's all go on vacation together with the wife and kids! Has yet to happen, lol

I'm pretty sure his wife (or the other one) has no clue who I am. I've never met her, though I wouldn't have a problem doing so. But I'm pretty sure she wouldn't approve of this particular friendship, where her husband is pursuing said friend.

I also have another friend. He has a girlfriend. We met in college and were besties. He came onto me a few years ago, when we were both single, after a night of slightly drunken fun on July 4. We slept together that nite. We were still friends after that, but with the element of attraction now, though I didn't sleep with him again. He continued to pursue for sex and affection. He got into a relationship. He still continues to pursue me. I have met the girlfriend, we've all hung out together and had fun, and she has no idea her man is all over me like white on rice the minute she turns her back.

So my take away is, to do your homework on any female friends your husband has, single or married. The married ones are probably the worst. The ones to worry about most are the ones you don't know about, or don't know much about. Men can and do lead double lives. They can't help their attraction to some women, and will stop at nothing to get with her, even if they seem like a saint to you.[/quote]

This is dead on....I have had same issues. Guys that I have never slept with still pursuing me after married and children and even grandchildren. I try to bring the wife into the fold or at least put myself in scenarios where we all hang out and he blocks it like an NBA champ. I ask myself why am I still friends with these guys and I have dumped a few of them because their behavior to their wives is atrocious and even if I did give in to their wants I would now be in the wife's position.

As for the OP...you don't know much about this woman and until you do..beware. BTW...what does she look like, hot? frumpy? something that crawled out from under front porch?[/quote]

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