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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can control yourself, not other people.

So focus on what YOU can do in this situation.[/quote]

That's what I want to do.  Do you have any suggestions on how to do this?  Meditation?  Mindfulness?  Writing out my frustrations on paper and then throwing them in the ocean?[/quote]

No. You are resentful because you have set no boundaries and then are taken advantage of. Surely this must happen in other areas of your life? [/quote]

Are you the poster who can tell people's weight and sex life through one anon post?[/quote]

I have no idea what you are talking about. But from my own patterns, and after watching my mom's reactions and relationships (who I learned from) I know that people who get pissed at others for being thoughtless like OP often do not communicate their boundaries and then slowly over time they get so angry they end up cutting off relationships altogether. The way to keep peace in relationships is not by staying silent and getting walked over (a lot of times these people are afraid of conflict) but by talking and setting boundaries and letting people know, kindly and firmly, when they are crossed. [/quote]

Oy vey. It's not about you.

Post your own thread about your issues and quit projecting on strangers.[/quote]

You don't think OP's lengthy post about how her blood boiling over this issue yet not saying one word to anyone about anything ("tell me how not to care") just screams boundary issues? I wrote about my family's pattern to show that it is common, esp for women.[/quote]

Yup, I'm another one like this, and I wrote one of the first posts about accepting that you can only control your own behavior, not others. You need to set limits that work for you. If you're unwilling to do that, you're contributing to the problem.[/quote]

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