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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
He works and maternity leave is leave for YOU, not him, to take care of baby!

Uh, no. It's for her to recover - having 14 hour days with no break with an infant is mentally and physically exhausting like nothing else.

Yet billions of women, until your generation, did exactly this and, somehow, miracously survived.[/quote]

billions of women also died in childbirth. billions of women had/have no access to birth control and live in societies where they are not equal to men in many significant ways. billions of women had children and lived with extended families for generations, and many of those men did not go out drinking with their buddies every evening because they were farming. just because she *can* handle being with an infant 24/7 does not mean she shoudl--why does he get a pass from the hard work of being a parent?

plus, at a certain point she will go back to work and then what? is he still going to be going out a couple times a week while she runs home from a long day of work and does all the kid related stuff? is that at the point where the "unfairness" sets in?  Is she responsible for all the drop off, picks up, pumping, washing bottles, etc?  She needs to nip this crap in the bud, otherwise she will be whining on here in a few years that she does all the house/kid related work and holds down a full time job, etc, and they stop having sex due to resentment ....

He has a 3 month old at home. He should be home, working alongside his wife to raise HIS child.  During the day, each has his/her job. His is at his regular salaried employment. Hers is an exchange of her salaried employment for a temporary period of childcare. When his day at work is done, he needs to join the home life and participate equally.

and, having been on 2 maternity leaves, working at WORK is a hell of a lot easier. [/quote]

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